In Person, Phone, Or zoom coaching

G.R.O.W. – Gracious Realizations Of Worth 

Are you tired of feeling lost? Of living with anxiety, unhappiness and feeling stuck? Maybe you feel like you are invisible and even if you were to use your voice no one would listen.

Let’s take some time to be present. Just you, myself and Khanfident. Taking a moment to become aware of your thoughts, pains, feelings and accomplishments in our trauma informed coaching sessions.

All are welcome to leave their worries in the dirt and grow into who they are – finding their truth, peace, and inner harmony.

I also offer Gestalt by phone and Zoom coaching; and of course in person sessions with or without a horse partner.

Come be heard, be seen, and be you.

I was so honored to be able to sit down and do a podcast with my mentor, and program instructor and creator, Melisa Pearce.

Please take a moment to listen to get a better idea of who we are and how we can help.
And, if you have further questions or would like to schedule something please reach out. We can't wait to come alongside you and help you be seen and heard.

It has been scientifically proven that until we are 7 or 8 our brains are in a state where we take in everything that is being said and done as fact - no questions asked.

What we experience is how the whole world must work and is normal, even if it isn't. We lack the cognitive abilities to know that life can be lived in any other way. It is almost like being brainwashed, developmentally. At this age we do not question our caretakers, teachers, religious leaders, coaches, friends and so on. What they say is simply the truth and we swallow it whole, positive or otherwise. We are able to learn so quickly and so much in these first few years of life because our brains do take everything in as fact. However, it also sets the foundation for our future.

This is often why we continue to have the same political affiliations, practice the same religion, and have the same beliefs around relationships, money, food, emotions and other things as our parents did. 

Each generation also typically goes through similar familial dynamics because it is comfortable and familiar to us and/ or so one can attempt to change how the story ends. 

Developmental brainwashing is why when someone is asked, “How was your childhood?” so many respond with, “It was good.” It was their version of normal so how could it be anything else.

When we are older we become able to look at and notice what our families, friends, and friends' families are doing. Simply taking note that they behave in this way, or do things in that way. Eventually, towards our teen years, we become capable of judging for ourselves what our beliefs will be and how we will live our lives, similarly or differently from our family of origin. Within this lineal foundation, what we conceive to be normal has been established and only through conscious awareness and action will we ever change what has become our status quo.  

Based on what we experienced in our family of origin is where others can come and “press our buttons.” Our pet peeves, insecurities, triggers and unfinished business can all be illuminated by the action, inactions, words, and tones of another. That person or situation may be sending you over the edge with anxiety and fear, or in contrast, they may be doing something that you justify and normalize. It all depends on what strategies you learned along your life’s journey. So many times what you are experiencing now has some sort of tie to your past. 

The developmental brainwashing was learned by one's subconscious and is why I believe healing also needs to happen at a subconscious level. It is not about blaming anyone, most of the time people do the best they can with what they have experienced. Understanding developmental brainwashing is about honoring your own experience and understanding how you got to where you currently are.